The older I get the more I come to understand of this world and the tricks it had played on me and the tricks it continues to play.So earlier today, after trying to figure out what are the chances I would marry my celebrity crush who will remain unnamed, I realized a trick society has been playing on me and it is this: If you don’t have a boyfriend you are doing something wrong and until you fix whatever you are doing wrong, you are not as valuable as the other girl who has a boyfriend. Let me begin with the media. So I believe this goes back a long time. For centuries women have been told to stay at home and rear the kids. And this has been this way probably up until the sixties if not longer. So of course the art of this time reflected this belief. And while we know that women can live happy lives without a man in her life we have not let our art progressed. We know as a society that women don’t need men, but emotionally we don’t feel it. This is for a lot of reasons. I know for me, its because of Daddy issues and because well, how do I put this… well… I went to high school! High school I believe is where this idea really develops. In high school, in case you have forgot, boys have ragging hormones and guys who we like know a lot of girls like them, so they go for the hottest girl they can find and a lot of girls will go from relationship to relationship because they are a hot commodity. So we begin to envy the other girls who have boyfriends. We look at them and wonder what is wrong with ourselves. And ladies I am sorry but we are catty and you have to admit if you didn’t like someone and you had a boyfriend sometimes you would think in your head, “Well, I have a boyfriend so in some way I am better than you.” That’s normal, not right or fair, but normal and girls can notice you feel this way. And instead of this you’re wrong they think “Wow, what is wrong with me?” Then comes the media. They feed this insecurity, especially magazines. They know what you want to hear, that if you follow certain steps you can get a boyfriend. But let me tell you, no matter what steps you take from stupid magazines or from the internet, they won’t make you get a boyfriend. Only two things can help you get a boyfriend: luck and confidence. I’m sorry but that’s it. I know that’s not what you want to hear but that's the truth. But they biggest thing is luck. You could be the most confident coolest girl in the world, but if a guy doesn’t want to see it, it won’t happen. Guys are stubborn and if they have a bunch of girls around them, they will take the most attractive one because they are horny teenagers. But there will be a guy who will realize how amazing you are and before you go picking up a teen magazine realize its a lot about luck. And movies and books don’t help either they give you a picture of yourself maybe, feeling sad that you don’t have a boyfriend, and in the end the girl gets a boyfriend and she’s happy and for a few hours you can live vicariously through the character but a few hours after the movie you feel worse than you did before. They know how girls feel insecure about not having a boyfriend and they want to make money off you, not all the time but a good portion of the time. So I guess what I am trying to say is to the young girls is don’t think there is anything wrong with you. Luck is just the name of the game and keep in there.
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